"As I saw more beauty in others' uniqueness, I began to appreciate my own." ~Sarah Winifred Searle I'm so pleased to have been recommended to this wonderful woman by my talented friend Kat. Check out Sarah Winifred Searle's pithy comic titled Fatness, Femininity, and the Media We Deserve.
Category: Beauty and Fashion
Choosing to be a Work-at-home Mom
Before starting my family, I was a high school English teacher. I loved being a teacher because I was blessed with challenging and amazing students. But, I left the classroom when my husband and I had agreed that I would stay home with our children while they were young. Of course, we assumed I'd eventually go back to the classroom to… Continue reading Choosing to be a Work-at-home Mom
Farewell to the Charismatic Chameleon
David Bowie was the consummate performer. Whether on stage, screen, or in the pages of Vogue, his chameleon-like ability to transform and reinvent himself made this private man a legend that was larger than life. Forever a champion of the underdog, Bowie implored listeners to "turn and face the strange." His androgynous charm attracted admirers of all… Continue reading Farewell to the Charismatic Chameleon
Even Cool Girls Wear Pearls
Your style doesn't have to be a feminist manifesto, but wouldn't that be fun? This season's hottest accessory is the pearl. But what if your style doesn't usually call for something so quite so ... dainty? You don't have to be June Cleaver or Betty Draper to caress your neck with one of the world's most… Continue reading Even Cool Girls Wear Pearls
Madam C. J. Walker: “I got my start by giving myself a start!”
Madam C. J. Walker made her mark in the beauty industry and the world by developing and marketing a line of beauty and hair products for black women under the company she founded, Madam C.J. Walker Manufacturing Company. Any one of the obstacles she faced in her lifetime would be enough to showcase this esteemable woman's… Continue reading Madam C. J. Walker: “I got my start by giving myself a start!”
Nope, That’s Not a Compliment
As I tell my children, “THINK before you speak. Is what you’re about to say True? Helpful? Inspirational? Is it Necessary? And, is it Kind? If not, keep your pie-hole shut.”
Fat people get a lot of negative messages about our bodies every day. One way to fight this is to change the number of positive messages. Unfortunately I’ve found that some people don’t know the difference between an authentic compliment, and saying something really offensive. It’s cool though, I’m here to help.
Allow me to elucidate using personal experience from a meeting to which I wore a sleeveless shirt and a skirt (and where I typically wear pants):
“Look at you, rocking a dress!” (said positively, no hint of sarcasm).
Compliment. Well done. (Yes, it’s technically a skirt and not a dress, but that’s not important right now.)
“Oh (makes pensive face), I didn’t think you wore dresses. I actually think pants suit you better.”
Nope, not a compliment. Not a thing to say at all really. Maybe should have used your inner monologue on this one.
“Wow, I don’t think I’ve seen…
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Micki Allen 