For the record, masturbation is totally natural — and yes, it is “normal” to masturbate, whether you’re sexually active in a relationship or not. Thanks to modern science (by way of 3-D imaging ultrasounds), we have proof that even unborn babies touch their genitals in utero. Whether or not the unborn touch their genitals for pleasure is still up for debate; however, there is significant evidence that infantile and very young children do touch themselves for pleasure — not sexual pleasure, per se, but certainly because it feels good. And why shouldn’t it? Our bodies and our sexuality are both God-given gifts.
Unfortunately, there are myriad myths meant to scare you into thinking masturbation is wrong or sinful. They’re actually scare-tactics left over from a bygone era. If you haven’t seen my video which dispels common masturbation myths, you may watch it here.
If you’re uncomfortable with the idea of masturbation, especially for religious reasons, you may find some helpful information here. If you’re unsure about finding your pleasure zones for masturbation, be sure to check out my article on Searching for Your Buried Pleasure here.
Not only is masturbation completely natural, masturbation even has these potential health benefits:
- releases sexual tension
- relieves muscle tension
- eases headaches
- relieves menstrual cramps
- reduces stress and anxiety
- helps you sleep better
- improves your self-esteem and body image
- helps treat various sexual problems
- strengthens the muscle tone in your pelvic floor (which supports your bladder, uterus, and anal area)
Masturbation, whether solo or with your partner (i.e., mutual masturbation), can also significantly improve your love life. It allows you to both be vulnerable with one another in a loving way, which always improves communication with a trusted loved one. Learning your pleasure points and those of your lover is also a terrific way to communicate intimately with your lover and help you both bring more pleasure to one another during lovemaking.
THE BOTTOM LINE: YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO ENJOY YOUR BODY AND YOUR SEXUALITY.